As a divorced dad I appreciate the ideas you raise in this article. Thanks for sharing your perspective. It is a struggle to figure out the best way to raise boys these days. I am not sure any of us have all the answers. Due to my situation I decided to try a different approach. I write a blog to my sons: http://www.lettertosons.com/. I share my thoughts and perspectives with them — hoping that some of it helps. I know that they don’t read it on a regular basis, but I keep writing. One day I think they will appreciate the fact that their father was unafraid to share his perspective with them.