If your approach is not working — change it
There will be points in your life when you have to decide if your approach is working or not. You may ask yourself the question am I making progress, or am I just spinning my wheels going nowhere?
It can be really hard to tell if a change is needed.
Oddly enough, the easy path is usually to continue down the path you are on.
The older I get the more I recognize that staying on the same path may not be the best choice. Changing your approach may be difficult, but it is worth considering.
Over the next few weeks I am going to share my perspective on this topic — how do you change your approach.
In this post, I will discuss three indicators that your current approach is not working. If any or all of these are true, then you should consider making a change. I hope you learn something from my experience.
Sign #1 — you are not making suitable progress
Measuring your progress can be challenging. In some scenarios calculating your progress is pretty straightforward.
Let’s say you are trying to lose weight.
Clearly, you can calculate your weight using a scale, body weight composition test, or other methods.
The good news is that the scale does not lie. As many of us have learned, the bad news is that the scale does not lie.
I actually weigh myself just about every morning.
I am not obsessed with my weight. Rather studies have shown that weighing yourself every morning is an effective way to prevent putting on extra weight which is a challenge I face at my age. It will not appear overnight.
This article explains more details about why weighing yourself every day is not a bad idea.
Remember — it is just one data point. Don’t panic.
In other situations, it can be difficult to accurately measure your progress.
Some goals may take years to achieve, such as earning a college degree.
In this case, I would monitor your progress against the graduation requirements for your degree. If you are off track, then you will likely need to change your approach.
For example, I changed majors during my undergraduate years. As a result of this change, I was not on track to graduate in four years.
Rather than stay in college longer I decided to take several classes during the summer so that I would still graduate on time. If I had not changed my approach, then I would have required more time and money to graduate.
When it comes to professional goals, measuring your progress can be even more tricky. You are both several years from that, so I will not cover that topic right now.
Suffice it to say that if you are not making suitable progress then you may need to change your approach.
Sign #2 — you are causing more harm than good
Achieving your goals will take time, energy, and effort.
In a previous post, I talked about the fact that some days you have to grind it out. I am a big fan of putting in your best effort, even when times get tough.
Having said that I also think it is important to make sure that you are not causing more harm than good. You need to monitor the impact you are causing to yourself and others. The ends do not justify the means.
You should not sacrifice everything to achieve your goals. This point is especially true when it comes to relationships and your health.
If you are causing more harm than good in any of your personal relationships, then you need to reevaluate your approach. You may need to make changes to include ending a relationship. No one deserves to be miserable.
Also, if your approach is causing health issues, then you need may need to change it. I am not saying that some pain is not needed for physical progress. Rather I am saying don’t be foolish when it comes to your health.
Learn from my mistakes in this category. Many times I ran when I should have rested while training for an upcoming race. In my mind, I was doing the right thing. But, what I was really doing was tearing up my body.
It seems like every time I took this approach I paid the price later with either poor performance on race day or an injury.
Don’t’ be stupid like me.
Listen to your body, and take care of yourself.
Trust me — if you don’t you will pay the price later.
Sign #3 — you lose your why along the way
When things get hard I often ask myself “why am I doing this”. I think most people do. A strong reason why makes it easier for me to keep going.
If I cannot answer that question clearly, then I may be in trouble.
Sometimes you may lose your why. It does not happen all the time, but this question will show up in your life at some point.
I remember being in Graduate School. At the time I was working a full-time job, trying to be a decent husband to your mother, and a good dad to you boys. Needless to say, I had a lot going on at this time.
When I asked myself why I was getting a graduate degree the answer was clear. I was preparing for the future. I was getting ready to leave the Army and needed current skills to enter the civilian workforce.
That why helped me get through some late nights and tough times.
If you do not have a good answer to that question, and you have lost you why then it is time to consider changing your approach.
I am not saying just quit.
I am saying that you may need to come up with a new approach which is what I plan to talk about in the next post.
I write a blog for my sons called Doug Keating Letter to Sons. I am sharing content from my blog here. I hope you enjoyed it. All feedback is welcome. Thanks for reading it.
Originally published at www.lettertosons.com on September 24, 2017.